UNPOPULAR FORMS OF NEEDINESS
Impressing other people is another despised form of neediness. It is sad when you observe it using the sense of pity dominated by a potent emotional state. But it is stupid and unwanted (and oftentimes dumb) when you look through the internal with the suprarational sense.
This kind of act (impression) often fights unacceptance, rejection, and/or being ununderstood. It stupidly trying to destroy uniqueness and tirelessly bouncing back from seeking a sense of belonging (which all of us need) in our preferred areas where we can be able to express and/or expose ourselves and what we’ve got (and can offer as well).
This is where the term ‘freedom’ can also be softly pulled out and gleaned from this confusing behavior. An individual who is absolutely free doesn’t give a fuck about impressions, convictions, or any sort of sense of belonging (of course there is no such human as this).
We sometimes need to shift our perspectives and judgments about freedom itself that we are constantly fighting and sacrificing for. It can be emotional freedom, psychological, financial, environmental, physical, or whatever the fuck we want it to be. Freedom itself requires a suitable (and sexy) spacious and unintensive peaceful spot to settle.
So, let’s retrace our almost-forgotten steps to where we fucking began with impressions that our brains are, predominantly, unconsciously seeking acceptance. Some might say I have no idea what I’m talking about. That might be true as well in certain piffling instances. But in substantial ones, it is comprehensively true (whether we fucking realize it or not).
“Everyone wants to own and control something.” ~Luyanda Mbatha
The above quote is commensurately true with human biology and animals as well, including journalists and lawyers (NB: not against them, but come on man. Like, really? fuhgedaboudit!). There is ‘something’ that we want to own, control, or don’t want to lose (you know what is that). Even the sightless and speech-impaired ones can concur with this.
That something we want to own and fucking control is what we utilize to acquire and feel some sense of control. Some people are overused to this kind of behavior. Some are not. And impressing, following, and praising each other through what we can boast and dominate is what also makes us feel like we are so special (mostly on social media), so loved, measure our fucking invented delusional self-worth, and determine what we and/or who deserves what, when and why (and don’t) as emotional and social creatures (and not to mention the ‘lone-wolf’ ones who pretend not to be).
We tend to scorn others (including ourselves) when they don’t seem to possess and control what is commonly expected and valued because they generally don’t impress us. And we find it arduous to accept them in our fucking circles (which is why there are so multifarious movements and laws on this planet) because they don’t meet our desired and envied touchstones.
So, we don’t actually need these types of individuals, we need someone who is superior, interesting, and impressive or whatever. Why? Because we are needy-seeking social creatures. Even if we despise it or don’t see it, there are things or something we did, do, and will do (or didn’t, don’t, or won’t do) to impress others we like and/or don’t to keep the status quo and construct and retain a rapport (even if you’re a motherfucking ‘sigma male’ or whatever).
“What you consider ‘friendship’ is really just your constant attempts to impress people.” ~Mark Manson
This is not to say you should ‘stop’ impressing other human beings like you (because you can’t). No, reader, you should, but by attracting them in a benign and propitious manner, not forcing it (some claim they are attracting, only to find out, sadly, they are fucking forcing the attraction itself). Never do that reader, ever! Take it easy.
The point is, let us try to admit that we are all needy in certain cases because living in denial won’t fucking help us, but simply continue to hurt us more. No one is going to be extremely punished or forced to chew their dirty unwashed stinky boxer shorts or knickers. I know some have convinced themselves that they’ve reached some highest level of self-improvement (or fucking monks) and that they’ve eliminated all needy behaviors, but they are wrong.
There are some needy behaviors that are left and can’t be eliminated that all of us need. Because without influential humans on this planet, life is fucking unimaginable (and scary) because I really don’t know what would I hope and fight for and how can I measure success and failure without human existence. We all need each other. And let us continue to have some balls and impress each other in a satisfactory and magnificent way because we are all going to fucking die.
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